Personality Strengths of the Melancholy

• Deep and thoughtful
• Analytical
• Serious and purposeful
• Genius prone (? vet inte vad det är)
• Talented and creative (lite kanske)
• Artistic or musical
• Appreciative of beauty
• Sensitive to others
• Self-sacrificing
• Conscientious
• Perfectionist
• Idealistic
• As a parent, sets high standards and wants everything done right.
• As a homemaker, keeps everything in order.
• As an employee, schedule oriented and hard working.
• A list maker and keeper.

Personality Weaknesses of the Melancholy

• Easily offended
• Can get too caught up in details
• Doesn’t do well with change.
• Struggles with insecurity
• Tends towards depression

Of all the personality types, the Melancholy probably struggles the most with a low self image because they have set such high standards for themselves and others.

Words count with a Melancholy. Every word that comes their way will be replayed in their mind and analyzed for meaning. Their feelings are easily hurt. They have to work hard to keep from falling into a spirit of offense. It helps the Melancholy to stop and ask “did they mean to hurt my feelings?” or “could I be reading too much into what they said?” It also helps to simply echo back comments that are potentially hurtful and make sure that you haven’t interpreted them wrong. 

Those who have Melancholy people close to them should drop generalizations from their vocabulary. Words like “always” and “never” will not be appreciated. If at all possible, drop the volume of your voice and keep your tone friendly. If you are in a bad mood, take care that you do not drip your negativity on them, they will take it personal and be wondering all day what they did wrong.

A Melancholy can become easily isolated. It’s a good thing to keep in touch and give them a lot of positive feedback and personal affirmation.

Melancholy’s think all the time. When they get quiet, watch out… Don’t be afraid to ask them if everything is alright. Depending on where they are on the road to spiritual maturity, they may not tell you what is really wrong, but be persistent. If you get the feeling that they have been offended by something that you said, just say so. “Did I hurt you when I said…”

The Melancholy is usually an amazing exhorter. When they do give you complements, they mean it. They are also often prayer warriors when they turn their thoughts into prayers for the people around them. They are merciful and sensitive to others, making great confidants and counselors.

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